The postpartum period can feel like a whirlwind of emotions, physical changes, and new responsibilities.

While you might have some ideas about what life will be like after giving birth, the reality can often be quite different from your expectations. Whether it’s dealing with the physical aftermath, adjusting to new routines, or navigating your emotional journey, there are plenty of surprises in store. To help you manage what’s coming, here’s a list of 9 “Expectation vs. Reality” tips that will prepare you for what’s ahead during those early months after childbirth.

1. Expectation: "I'll lose all the baby weight right away!"

Reality: "It typically takes 6 to 12 months to return to your pre-pregnancy weight."

It’s natural to want to shed the baby weight quickly, but the reality is that your body has gone through significant changes during pregnancy, and it needs time to recover. Most women lose about 10-13 pounds during childbirth (baby, placenta, amniotic fluid), but losing the rest of the weight takes time. Focus on nourishing your body and moving when you can, rather than stressing about an immediate return to your pre-pregnancy size.

2. Expectation: "I’ll immediately bond with my baby."

Reality: "It can take time to establish a strong bond with your baby."

While many mothers feel a rush of love when they meet their baby, bonding is a process and doesn’t always happen immediately. It can take days, weeks, or even months to feel that deep connection, and that’s perfectly normal. The key is spending time with your baby, responding to their needs, and allowing the bond to grow naturally over time.

3. Expectation: "I’ll never have time to sleep again."

Reality: Sleep will be challenging, but you can find ways to rest.

Newborns don’t have a predictable sleep schedule, so it’s common to expect that you’ll be awake all night, every night. While it’s true sleep deprivation is a huge challenge in the early weeks, the reality is that with time, you’ll learn how to catch up on rest when you can. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your partner, family member, or friend to allow you to nap. While you won’t be getting full nights of sleep right away, it does get better over time. On average, babies start sleeping through the night at 6 months, so there is an end in sight.

4. Expectation: "My body will never be the same."

Reality: Your body might look different, but that’s beautiful!

It’s common to think that your pre-pregnancy body was the ideal, and anything less would be a disappointment. The truth is, your body is going through an incredible journey and it’s okay if it doesn’t look exactly the way it did before pregnancy. Your body has grown and birthed a little human, and it may carry the marks of that amazing feat. Stretch marks, extra weight, or different curves might stick around, but these changes are a sign of your strength and resilience. Embrace the beautiful transformation your body has gone through.

5. Expectation: "Breastfeeding will come naturally."

Reality: "Breastfeeding can be challenging and requires patience."

While breastfeeding is natural, it doesn’t always come easily to every mom. It may take time to figure out the best latch, establish a good supply, or even deal with nipple soreness or discomfort. If breastfeeding isn’t working out right away, don’t be afraid to ask for help from a lactation consultant or consider supplementing with formula if needed. Be kind to yourself, as breastfeeding is a learned skill for both you and your baby.

6. Expectation: "I won’t have time for anything other than baby."

Reality: It’s possible to carve out moments for yourself.

Postpartum life can feel all-consuming, and it’s easy to expect that your entire focus will be on your baby’s needs. While your little one will definitely need a lot of attention, it’s important to remember that taking care of yourself is just as crucial. Whether it’s a short walk, a quiet cup of tea, or a few minutes to read, small moments of self-care can make a big difference in your mental well-being. You’re not being selfish for needing time for yourself—you can't fill others from an empty cup!

7. Expectation: "I’ll have no issues with postpartum emotions."

Reality: "It’s normal to experience a rollercoaster of emotions after birth."

Hormonal changes after delivery can cause mood swings, and many moms experience what’s commonly called the “baby blues.” These feelings can range from mild sadness to feeling overwhelmed. If these feelings persist or get worse (e.g., feelings of hopelessness or disconnection), it could be postpartum depression. It’s important to reach out for support, whether through friends, family, therapy, or a healthcare professional.

8. Expectation: "It'll be a while before I can exercise again."

Reality: "Take care of your body starts day 1 of postpartum."

It's easy to assume after giving birth, there's no way your body will make it back to the gym anytime soon. And that may be true for a while, but that doesn't mean you can't take care of your body! The Mayo Clinic even says after a normal birth, you might be safe to start exercising after just a few days - see their recommendation for postpartum exercise here. Like always, taking care of your body is a tenuous balance between listening to your body and extending grace, while still challenging yourself. Start small with gentle stretches and short walks. Work your way up to a healthy routine that feels right for you. You will be able to exercise again - recovery and transition just takes time.

9. Expectation: "I’ll be 'ready' to be a parent when my baby is born."

Reality: "Parenting is a learning curve, and you won’t have it all figured out."

It’s common to think that by the time your baby arrives, you’ll have the nursery organized, answer ready for all of your child's future questions, and decisions made for every parenting hurdle. However, every baby is different, and there will be a learning curve - from two days old to 18 years old! You'll have to troubleshoot things like sleep patterns, feedings, or diaper changes for the first few weeks or even months. And as your child grows, you'll grow with them. Allow yourself to learn as you go, and remember that no one has all the answers—and no one is ever really "ready" to be a parent;)

The New Mom's Reality

Your body is bringing life into the world - and there's no blueprint for success! Take things one day at a time, ask for help when you need it, and be kind to yourself through every step of this beautiful, messy journey.

You’ve got this, mama—trust yourself, trust the process, and remember, there’s no “perfect” way to navigate postpartum. You are doing amazing.

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